Reject Quarrels: 2 Timothy 2.20-26

On Monday, January 14^th, we were encouraged to read and meditate upon 2 Timothy 2.20-26. This section from what was likely Paul’s last recorded letter exhorts young Timothy to be on guard against false teaching and to pursue a lifestyle that is characterized by righteousness. Especially within the context of the stern battle against false teachers, Paul’s words in verses 23-24 strike an unexpected note.

But reject foolish and ignorant disputes, knowing that they breed quarrels. The Lord’s slave must not quarrel, but must be gentle to everyone, able to teach, and patient, (2 Timothy 2.23-24, HCSB).

In a world where there is much to be disputed, Paul says there are some arguments that we should flee. In fact, it seems that part of the “youthful passions” Timothy is instructed to avoid stem from an immature bent toward argument. Not every battle is worth fighting. What’s more, sometimes the righteous and mature thing to do is to avoid the dispute.

Furthermore, notice how Paul wants Timothy to think of his opponents.

… instructing his opponents with gentleness. Perhaps God will grant them repentance to know the truth. Then they may come to their senses and escape the Devil’s trap, having been captured by him to do his will (2 Timothy 2.25-26, HCSB).

First, Paul instructs Timothy to treat his opponents with gentleness. Why? The answer is found in remembering the source of their error. Timothy is to consider his opponents as victims who need to be freed from the trap of Satan. Moreover, Timothy is to understand his gentle instruction as something God desires to use to set them free and grant repentance.

These wise words from the Apostle Paul have encouraged me to ask myself two questions when it comes to “disputes” and dealing with “opponents.” First, is it worth it? In other words, what is truly at stake in this dispute and is that thing worth the dispute? Second, does my attitude toward this person need adjustment? We can often be tempted to de-humanize those we disagree with and start to feel justified in our anger, hatred and lack of gentleness. Often these questions and the time it takes to consider them will transform the nature of the “dispute” and lead to Christ-like reconciliation. Other times these questions might lead us to literally obey Paul’s commands in verses 22-23

Flee from youthful passions . . . reject foolish and ignorant disputes, knowing that they breed quarrels.